To be Frank or not???

Have u ever been pissed off by a comment or action made by ur friend but restrained yourself frm getting angry infront of him or her to protect your friendship?? U swallow ur anger, but unknowingly u start to bear a grudge against ur friend....

Do pple do things that piss you off but yet u control your anger because u dun wanna kick up a fuss esp in public.

Later on, the thing repeats itself and u keep bottling up ur emotions until finally u explode... Damn, maybe u shud have told ur friend or the person how u felt instead of bottling ur feelings....

The question is,

Is it better that we let the person/friend know abt our unhappiness and anger the moment he/she hurts us? Or is it better to practice patience and tell the person how we feel when we realli get pissed off. Which one is more effective in stopping our friends frm hurting us but yet we can remain tactful....

If u tell ur friend how u feel, ur friend may or may not respect ur view. Some pple will heed ur advice and stop doing or saying things that hurt u. However, there will always be the other type of pple who pay no attention abt ur feelings and continue doing as they pls. Maybe now u know that this particular person is not worthy to be a friend.

Looking at this frm a Christian perspective, let me look at what the bible says abt dealing with this:

Matthew 5:38-39:''You have heard that it was said, Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth. But I tell you. Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes u on the right cheek, turn to him the other also."

Those words were from the Sermon on the mount which Jesus preached 2000 yrs ago in Galilee.

A normal human being would never be able to turn the other cheek for the person to stike. That is just not humanly possible... It goes against our human nature....

To sum up, God's standards are much higher than ours and we cannot use human understanding to comprehend how we can 'turn the other cheek'.